I feel like I’ve changed a lot over the last couple of years – I got confident enough to leave my marriage and to allow myself to take a chance again in a new relationship and I am happier than I’ve been in a long time. It wasn’t easy though so I thought I’d share a few ways that might help you to build up your own confidence.
Boosting your confidence and self esteem can be a game-changer, not just for your personal relationships but also for skyrocketing your career. It’s true that the most successful people are often the ones with bucketfuls of both, so clearly, they represent something to aspire to.
However, if the harsh realities of life have left you a shadow of your former self, or you’ve wrestled the demons of insecurities for as long as you can remember, becoming more self-assured is easier said than done.
Thankfully, there are some things you can do to achieve this. Here are 7 steps you can take to become a more confident you.
1. Make some changes to your appearance
There is no denying that how we perceive our appearance can have a massive impact on our overall levels of confidence and virtually every aspect of our lives. Therefore, one of the first steps in becoming a more confident individual is to make aesthetic changes that will make us feel better.
In this respect, you are looking for quick wins that will give you a boost. So, get your hair styled, add better clothes to your wardrobe and get those nails done. Getting my nails done is the biggest me thing I do each month.
I’d also recommend treating yourself to a new perfume to help you feel better about yourself – I went back to a perfume I used to wear years ago when my marriage ended and I love it! If you explore Maplestore’s Maison Louis Marie collection, you’ll find a great range of perfumes you can embrace as your new signature scent.
These all seem like small things but they can make a difference to how you feel about yourself.
2: Start thinking more positively
Quick makeovers in appearance can only go so far. At some point, you are going to need to change your mindset.
The best way to do this is to embrace the power of positive thinking. Essentially, this involves adopting a more optimistic, glass-half-full mentality that revolves around you seeing challenges as opportunities and not problems.
Several studies have shown that the more positive an approach you can have in life, the more successful and healthier you are likely to be.
Likewise, the more you focus on the good things in your life, the more likely you are to achieve your goals, develop healthier relationships and be happier.
Here is some more information about embracing a positive thinking mentality.
3. Spend more time with other positive people
Have you ever heard of that old proverb ‘iron sharpens iron’? Well, it is certainly applies to positive people too.
Adopting a positive attitude yourself is one thing. But you should also look to build a network of other positive thinkers you can interact with, as doing this will likely grow this mentality within you further.
Ultimately, the more positive people you can surround yourself with, the better, as they can be an invaluable source of affirmation and support if you do find your mind slipping.
This network could be a mix of people you know and can spend face-to-face time with, as well as those you don’t know on platforms like LinkedIn but whose approach to life appeals to you.
4. Detach yourself from toxic people
Unfortunately, you are always going to encounter negative people. However, you don’t have to interact with them.
In fact, the more you do, the more their pessimism is likely to rub off on you (remember, iron sharpens iron). So, where possible, try to completely remove them from your life or, at the very least, set boundaries that limit how often and the length of time you see them.
Equally, unfollow anyone on social media who doesn’t make you feel happy about yourself!
5. Find a role model
We all need someone to inspire us. So, if you want to be a more confident person, you should try and find a role model whose persona you can emulate.
It doesn’t matter if it is a family member, friend, work colleague or celebrity, find someone who exudes outward confidence, and then try to replicate their best traits.
6. Find something you are good at
We are all good at something. Whether it be singing, cooking, art, dancing, sport or academia, there is a good chance that we are adept at something many other people struggle with.
A great way to improve your confidence is to find what you are good at and take steps to get known for excelling at it.
Doing this will elevate you in the eyes of others and should help you to better realise your worth and unique skills and strengths.
7. Take a course
Being more confident is not something that will happen overnight.
However, you can expedite the process by signing up to a personal development course, such as one that offers tips to enhance your self-confidence and assertiveness.In these courses, you’ll learn plenty of techniques you can adopt to live a more confident life with better self-esteem. You will also be given lots of encouragement and positive affirmations.
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