Girls are Mean…

When I picked Miss Frugal up from school on Tuesday she was much quieter than normal and I could see something was bothering her but she had two friends coming round for tea so I didn’t press her to tell me what it was straight away but when they’d gone home, we laid on the settee together and she told me that one of the girls in her class, let’s call her ‘the nasty one’ had written a note about her saying she was a thief and she’d threatened to take this letter home to her foster parents who would be very angry with Miss Frugal. 

We’ve had trouble with the nasty one before when she told Miss Frugal that her grandma had been shot dead among other things (I know, lovely child) and I ended up going in to the school to sort it out and to the school’s credit, from the day I mentioned this until Monday, there’s been no other incidents until Monday.

After I’d reasured Miss Frugal that nothing would happen to her, she asked me not to say anything to the school as she wanted to try and sort it out herself.  I’ve told her before that I think the nasty one picks on her because she is jealous that she has so many friends and she has a family who love her so much and I think she feels sorry for her a little bit.  Against my better judgement, I agreed to see how the next day went before I contacted the school and the next morning I dropped her off at breakfast club without saying anything to the teachers.

You can guess what’s coming can’t you?  I got to the school to pick her up yesterday and found her almost in tears.  Apparently the nasty one had accused her, in front of everyone, of stealing her water bottle at break time. 

We went straight to her teacher who said that she was aware that there had been an incident as the nast one had told her that Miss Frugal had stolen the water bottle (bought from the stall in the playground at break time for 20p so nearly everyone gets one!) but the teacher says that she explained to the nasty one that she had thrown it in the bin as it had been empty.  She had made the nasty one apologise to Miss Frugal and she’d thought the matter had ended there.  To her credit, she looked mortified that the nasty one had not left it at that and had continued to tell people that Miss Frugal had stolen the bottle.  She looked even more shocked when I explained what had happened the day before and she promised me that she would sort it out today.

I know from Miss Frugal that the nasty one wasn’t allowed on the laptops this morning and had to miss her morning playtime so I know that they’ve taken some action but I’ve found out tonight that she’s been bullying another little girl who has told her mam that she wants to change schools because of her! 

It’s so sad when children so young can be so nasty.  I really dread what sort of person she will grow up into and I just hope that this is the last time I have to deal with nastiness.